ok so my husband had an army training event that he had to attend in new york. he is from new york so our 8 year old son was there visiting and my doctor cleared me to go as well as long as i adhered to my bed rest schedule and took it easy.
well the day we left my husband chipped his tooth and my pit bull mix went into heat (poor dog sitter)… so that day started off a little rough! then while on the 18 hour road trip from Iowa to new york my husbands pay check was not direct deposited on time into our account so we had to borrow $100 for gas money from his parents to get us through. yes we jumped the gun and left a day early counting on the pay check money to be in our account and get us through. oh well we made it to new york!
my mother in law was all hands on with my belly all the time. i know that she is just excited but i really don’t like people in my bubble! not to mention she was sad because bryson wouldn’t move for her at all… ever! so then she would touch my belly more and leave her hands on it longer!
my sister in law discovered that she is pregnant as well. she does not take care of her first born who is 5 years old now! my niece does not sleep through the night, wets the bed nightly, eats chicken nuggets and ketchup for breakfast lunch and dinner daily, still plays with a pacifier and talks like a baby. my sister in law does not discipline or raise her daughter. my niece spends 95% of her time at my in laws house. i dont think she even knows where home is!
well my sister in law let it “slip” that my mother in law was going to throw a little baby shower for me. Yay i was excited i was afraid we wouldn’t be able to do one because i have been on bed rest since 14 weeks! come to find out my sister in law didn’t let it slip on accident here was what she said to me:
“well my mom is having a baby shower for you and since the family will be here for it i am going to announce that i am pregnant too” my response “no you’re not! you can tell them on your own time! you see them all the time and i don’t. please don’t ruin the day for your brother and i” she again replied with “i don’t care i am still telling at the shower so i can tell everyone at once”
i was so upset i called my husband crying. i have had a baby shower before but he hasn’t and this is our last child. i wanted it to be special for him and i didn’t want his attention hogging sister trying to steal the spotlight! we have been trying for years for a baby and have many heart aches (as you know if you have followed along) and this is our little miracle man and i want it to be special for our family! my husband called his sister and had some heated words with her and she eventually agreed not to say anything at the party besides the fact that she was jumping ahead she was only 6 weeks by her estimate and still hadn’t been to the doctor to verify it!
my sister in law has a learning disability and peaked mentally at the age of about 15-16 years old. she is hard to handle because in conjunction with that she is manic depressive, has seizures and is bi polar. so she is stuck in the mentality that she has to be the center of attention at all times and she has to one up everyone. my husbands grand mother passed away a few months ago and she knew i was pregnant so she left a little money for a recliner or glider (her standard gift to the mom and baby every time the first grandchild was born) so we picked out the one we wanted and my mother in law bought it along with the convertible 4 in 1 crib and mattress. we were so thankful! we got rid of everything since our older son is almost 9 years old now! well my sister in law threw a fit and started looking for a new recliner (she got one 5 years ago when her daughter was born) and my mother in law told her she wasn’t getting a new one because she has one. then she started looking at cribs and demanding a new one of those since we were getting one (my niece never used her crib and its not a drop side and its in perfect condition so she doesn’t need a new crib) and my mother in law again shot her down. well my sister in law lost her grip screamed and yelled and stormed out and left. she was either so mad or just didn’t care but she left her daughter at my in laws and didn’t call to check on her the rest of the night!
a few days later i got suckered into going to my sister in laws first ob appointment. well her doctor made it a point to sit there for 10 minutes and tell me how large i am, how low my baby is and how i will never make it to my due date (October 28th). he then proceeded to tell me how irresponsible my ob is to let me travel so late in my pregnancy and he wanted to see a copy of my records because he was afraid i was going to go into labor at any time. yep lets pick on the pregnant girl! well for the record i have lost 23 pounds total and just gained 6 pounds back at my 28 week appointment, i was 30 weeks when my sister in laws ob was bugging me, yes i carry low i did so with my older son too, my older son was a month early and he was fine!
needless to say so much more happened but those are a few of the “highlights” of the trip!
well our road trip home was no better than the one to get there! we had a tire blow out on our truck on the highway while doing 75 mph! it didn’t just blow out it shredded! so it tore up the wheel well, broke the fog light, broke the headlight and damaged the front fender and bent up metal around the wheel well. we had to call roadside and wait for a tow truck. we got to the tire shop and our truck apparently has HUGE tires on it so for 1 tire it was $300 dollars! yep shoot me now! we replace it and drive home. well the damage to the wheel well included damage to the wiring for the lights so for 13 hours we listened to a dinging noise telling us a light was out. my husband pulled the fuse and taped up the wire and looked for the chime box. nothing worked! 13 hours of dinging is unbearable just so you know!
we get home and our 2nd dog is in heat now! my son starts school the next day and i have an ob appointment. well at my ob i find out that at 31 weeks my little person is head down and engaged and ready to come out so we are now on baby watch! i am to time contractions and head to the hospital when they are 7 minutes apart, if my water breaks, if i feel abnormal amounts of pressure, or if i lose my mucus plug or have bloody show… fantastic news! i am also back on strict bed rest to help baby stay in a little longer but doc said if labor starts he wont stop it!
good thing the crib and mattress got here yesterday and the glider will be here today and the car seat/stroller combo will be here by the weekend. i have already planned my husbands honey do list and its all about getting the nursery together! oh my so much to do!